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: Wordly Teacher
: Selfless Service (SLS)
: Benificiary will not need to pay back in any kind less being better and prayers
: What is a good man but a bad man’s teacher? What is a bad man but a good man’s job? Tao Te Ching
My thoughts are based on the following assumptions
- Societal decay has occurred in Pakistan due to prolonged conflict
- Grooming places of youth ie mosque, school and home are dysfunctional or ineffective.
- Societal evolution is far from being ideal
- Life has become complex, challenging and social media is impacting psychology of adolescents
- Stress, anxiety and waywardness are rampant
Recently we lost two young souls. One to death and second possibly to gallows. Sana Yousaf murder shook the nation. Both were teenagers, full of life and had a future ahead. We lost them to collective callousness, indifference and apathy of the society. This isn’t first horrific incident of its kind and God forsake won’t be last one too.
From Mad, Mad, Mad World (title of a movie of 60s) it has transitioned to Crazy, Crazy, Crazy World. Sudden rise in popularity, fame, stature and money is very much possible but laden with dangers. Qandeel Baloch was probably first victim to such phenomenon and Sana Yousaf is the recent. Many young people fell victim to such temptations. There is an old adage, “Jo jitna tez bhagta hai utna hee buri tarha girta hai” (the one who tries to run too fast, falls very badly).
It’s a harsh reality that our youth is haunted by bitter realities and challenges of complex life. What options do they have:
- Go to a religious teacher, what we call as Peer. The fact of the matter is, it’s very hard to find a genuine Peer or Hakeem. Peers have hidden motives and Hakeems give steroids. So there is an attached price.
- Go to a qualified psychiatrist, which costs money.
- Discuss with parents, mostly there is shyness or aversion due to parents being formal and fear of retribution.
The problem is there, the solution is needed. Is it enough as a society to cry over a horrific incident, get into blame and shame, quickly forget and wait for next horrific incident.
I am not a professional, I am not even a pious man, however, I am endowed with spirit to contribute, I have a keen eye for societal ills and feel myself as a responsible senior citizen. I am at the stage of delivering to the society. I tried my skills in the past in counselling young people with good results. I can devote my time for a selfless and free counselling to the young individuals who feel the need. Tony Robbins is my ideal but may be he charges money but I want to do as service to society. Individuals seeking this support will be treated as sons and daughters. Method and mode will be the choice of the seeker.
I also hope if this idea gets traction, more senior citizens may join this journey.
May Allah guide us to help our youth, stay sincere to cause and enable us to contribute.
Sammilogger 
Dear sir, like you many respectable senior citizens feel this pain and decay in our society. But if parents don’t feel responsible and guide their kids, you and me can’t change them. About the incident of sana yousaf, her mother is doctor, her father was away. Why did her mother stop her for running to fast for fame, she should have told her about ill effects of this madness for fame.
Sana was just 17 years, she was not mature enough to read evils of this madness of fame. She was in contact with the murderer. How he was at her house meeting with sana, when sana mother and aunt were also present in house. ?
I do blame society but first parents and kids are responsible for such trajic incidents.
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Thanks a lot for invaluable contributions
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Blaming Sana or her family for what happened is not only unfair but deeply troubling. The perpetrator’s audacity stems from a society that consistently protects offenders while blaming and shaming victims.
Sana was just 17, navigating a culture where young women are harshly judged and isolated instead of supported. That he could commit such a crime even in the presence of her family reveals systemic failures far beyond parental responsibility.
If we truly want change, we must end this cycle of victim blaming and focus on holding perpetrators accountable without any ‘ifs and buts,’ creating a culture where those affected by violence are protected and respected.
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amazing initiative sir, may Allah bless you with the best, Ameen!
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Thank you, Sir, for sharing this. From my experience as a woman in Pakistan, I’ve seen victim blaming and gender-based violence get dismissed or even normalized within my own circle. Talking about these issues openly still feels taboo—often met with judgment or mockery in family, social, and academic spaces. Your message of compassionate support really gives me hope that we can start breaking this silence.
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